We can become what we want to be, by being what we want to become. Richard G. Scott
Things a New Mother Should Remember
Do you love your baby, but still feel overwhelmed as a new mom? Have you been wondering how a mom does all this? Here are some helpful tips to remember when you have the blessing of being a new mother.
You can enjoy your new bundle of joy and make every minute count, if you keep these important things in mind.
ü Be easy on yourself! This is all new to you and you have to learn just like you learn to do anything else. You will get better as time goes by.
ü A city like “Rome wasn’t built in a day”. It took nine months of changes in your body to bring this beautiful baby into the world, and likewise, you will need time to get your body back in shape.
ü Be patient and seize the moment. Take this special time to enjoy your baby. Your baby won’t be little for long. Don’t think everything has to be perfect in your world right now.
ü
You
will evolve into a routine. This will not happen overnight and it
will probably take at least six weeks to see any kind of schedule coming
about.
ü Do take the opportunity to rest when you can. If you have mild “blues” after the birth of your baby, one of the reasons could be you are not getting enough rest.
ü Even the best mothers have days with challenges and disappointments. Just “flow with the tide” and “this too shall pass.” You will learn as you go and in future days will also feel the sweet joy of success as you see your understanding of what is expected increase and you master how to handle the demands.
ü Arrange for help with the baby. If you do not have family close, let your spouse know and tell him you need help and/or ask a friend for help, even if just for a few hours so you can get rested.
ü Reveal to family members, a friend, or someone that is concerned, how you’re feeling. Sometimes we just need to talk and express ourselves and we feel better and can “pick ourselves up” and start anew. That person may have that positive comment or perspective you hadn’t thought about. It helps a lot to talk to a person that has been through the same experiences you are now going through.
Stay positive and commit yourself to being a successful mother. Remember, being a mom is a very important endeavor. Your dear baby is counting on you for their every need!
Betty Gustin
How to Cope with Your Husband/Wife in Graduate
School
Finally! Your husband has been accepted into the
graduate program of his and your dreams. You pack your few mismatched
pieces of furniture and newlywed supplies and you’re off. When the dust
settles and your husband is attending long hours at a new school in a
new town, you start to realize that you are on your own, especially if
you have moved away from extended family. What do you do now? This is a
quick list that helps us through this unique and exciting, but sometimes
lonely and challenging part of our lives.
1. The first and most important thing for my husband
and me to do was to find our
nearest church and attend it.
This is important for several reasons. We had instant family and social support. We met several young students and their wives in the same boat we were in. I met some amazing women who, to this day, I am very close to. Friends might be more important now than at any other time of your life. Choose wisely and treat them well.
2. Along the lines of making new friends,
find a pet. Buy one, adopt
one or foster one; whatever you can do. We bought a puppy and had many
fun adventures on morning walks, going to the beach and meeting people
at the doggie park.
Of course, if you already have kids and not much time for a new puppy, then join a playgroup. It is so fun to visit museums and zoos and let your children experience a brand new culture and make their own friends.
3. Find out your area’s main attractions and try them all out. Then, as time progresses, you’ll find the “hidden treasures” of your city that are not as popular.
We spent three years in San Francisco and could live there another ten without making it past the tip of the iceberg, as far as entertainment goes. Every place is unique. Discover what makes your area fun.
4. Look for ways to serve. As we have heard many times, the best way to lose one’s self is in service of others.
Discover new hobbies. Delve into something you’ve
always wanted to try; scrap booking, photography, stamp collecting or
train for a triathlon. You might
never have this much time to yourselves to develop your own talents
again. Use it wisely.
5. Count on your family. Plan vacations to see them or invite them out to visit you and be their tour guide. Call them often. I was able to develop very close relationships with each of my family members as we spoke one on one.
Most importantly, be supportive of your husband / wife. It is difficult to spend long hours away from each other. You can visit him during lunch time, join or instigate a mom’s club for the students in his class, and get to know the people he works with, day by day. Instead of living two separate lives, you will be able to talk about common people and activities of the day, when you get to know what is going on in his world.
Graduate school is a goal that is definitely worth persevering for. What an absolutely wonderful time graduation day is! You’ve worked so hard and waited so long and your “ship is finally here.”
Sharolyn Lindsay
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